Self-Worth

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.” 

C.JoyBell

― C. JoyBell C. - Her words are quoted by movers and shakers of this age (people she often refers to as being "much bigger" than herself) and have become a genuine source of inspiration, transformation and discovery for many the world over. 

Maybe we often asked our self “How much am I worth?”  How much insurance money will I get after someone’s death, how much my father leave on his will? Etc.etc. Even though this is a weird question with no exact answer yet because there is no definite answers you would like to hear. But for me my self-worth is all about “SELF-CONFIDENCE” – “SELF-ESTEEM” – “SELF-RESPECT”

Any of the things that holding you back from pursuing any of your dreams for many years was fear of failure…..the lack of Self-Confidence. You needed to overcome that fear to know your “Self-Worth”. The key question is how do you overcome that fear.

If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence. And if you believe that you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. … that can be changed. You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants despite the No-Saying of others.

From now on, I outline some things in the next 2/3 blogs  that will help you to improve your self-confidence.  The list certainly isn’t comprehensive. These are just some of my favorite things, stuff that’s worked for me. And you don’t need to do all of them, as if this were a recipe … pick and choose those that appeal to you, maybe just a couple at first, and give them a try.

If it worked, try other ideas also.  If it not worked, don’t worry try others idea. Here they are, in no particular order:

Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started my consultancy firm  about nine years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to get maximum numbers assignment..

Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. When I was working or writing a HR policy, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go and meet some friends or a beer..” Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a termite, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these termites. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. (“C’mon, I can do this! Half the work is done just another an hour work this assignment will over!”)

All are born knowing their self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables you to believe that everyone are capable of doing our best with their talents, of contributing well for business or work or to society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy.

In the next couple of blogs let me explain what are other points to look into know you self-worth. Your self-worth is your insurance to your future.  Look forward to the next blog. 

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The Action Plan

--> Too often some action takes us to inaction — the small doubt in the back of our mind and trying too hard for perfectionism and distractions by a phone call and an invitation to something that stops us from moving forward.

And while I’m no proponent of a whirling buzz of activity, I also believe people get lost in the distractions of the world and lose sight of what’s important, and how to actually accomplish their Something Amazing. A little self imposed  little rules of action can help to overcome from  this inaction— just some small reminders, things I’ve found useful but by no means invented, common-sense stuff that is often not common enough.

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Just start: All the planning in the world will get you nowhere. You need to take that first step, no matter how small or how shaky. All long journeys started with a small step. My rule for motivating myself for morning walk is just jump into my track suits and lacing my sports shoes. . Instead if you think when to start, at what time to go, shall I listen walk or jog, while jogging shall I listen to some music, etc.etc.  only lead to inaction. Take it from me you will never go for that morning walk. Best is Start moving and plan while moving.

Kiss off the perfection: Perfectionism is the enemy of action and a friend of inaction.. Shoot it down immediately. You can’t let perfection stop you from doing something important. You can turn a bad draft into a good one, but you can’t turn plain paper into a good draft. So get going.

Deliberate your move: Be deliberate. Action doesn’t need to be done fast. In fact, that often leads to mistakes, and while perfection isn’t at all necessary, neither is making a ridiculous amount of mistakes that could be avoided with a bit of consciousness.

Step by steps. A small step always works.  Trying to chew off more than you can choke you Same way trying rush it up kill the action. Like a many little steps eventually scale the mountain.  And each step is a victory, that each one will compel you to further victories. 

Talking isn’t action. Well, unless you’re a television broadcaster or your job is talking or the action you need to take is a presentation or speech or something, talking usually is just talking. Communication is necessary, but talking is not the substitute for action.  

Get rid of Negative thinking:  Seriously, stop doing that first. Kick off  those thoughts. Well, OK, you can be distracted for a little bit, but you get the idea. Positive thinking, as corny as it sounds, really works. Self doubt, a feeling at the back of the mind  to quit? Keep remind  yourself that it’s OK to be distracted and that you can always get to it later? The self-assurance talk or self=talk we keep tell ourselves has a unique ability of turning thoughts into reality.

Planning/Meeting isn’t action. Sure, you need to plan and discuss. . Do it, so you’re clear about what you’re doing and it is conveyed to your team also in the meeting. . Just do it and finish it as quickly as you can. Get into the actual action as quickly as you can.

Reading about it isn’t action. You’re reading a blog about action. Ironic, I know. But let this be the last one. Now get to work! Yes reading an Insurance policy, is not going to insure your life, you have to take the insurance policy.