Self-Worth

“You can be the most beautiful person in the world and everybody sees light and rainbows when they look at you, but if you yourself don't know it, all of that doesn't even matter. Every second that you spend on doubting your worth, every moment that you use to criticize yourself; is a second of your life wasted, is a moment of your life thrown away. It's not like you have forever, so don't waste any of your seconds, don't throw even one of your moments away.” 

C.JoyBell

― C. JoyBell C. - Her words are quoted by movers and shakers of this age (people she often refers to as being "much bigger" than herself) and have become a genuine source of inspiration, transformation and discovery for many the world over. 

Maybe we often asked our self “How much am I worth?”  How much insurance money will I get after someone’s death, how much my father leave on his will? Etc.etc. Even though this is a weird question with no exact answer yet because there is no definite answers you would like to hear. But for me my self-worth is all about “SELF-CONFIDENCE” – “SELF-ESTEEM” – “SELF-RESPECT”

Any of the things that holding you back from pursuing any of your dreams for many years was fear of failure…..the lack of Self-Confidence. You needed to overcome that fear to know your “Self-Worth”. The key question is how do you overcome that fear.

If you are low in self-confidence, is it possible to do things that will change that? While it may not seem so, if you are low in self-confidence, I strongly believe that you can do things to increase your self-confidence. It is not genetic, and you do not have to be reliant on others to increase your self-confidence. And if you believe that you are not very competent, not very smart, not very attractive, etc. … that can be changed. You can become someone worthy of respect, and someone who can pursue what he wants despite the No-Saying of others.

From now on, I outline some things in the next 2/3 blogs  that will help you to improve your self-confidence.  The list certainly isn’t comprehensive. These are just some of my favorite things, stuff that’s worked for me. And you don’t need to do all of them, as if this were a recipe … pick and choose those that appeal to you, maybe just a couple at first, and give them a try.

If it worked, try other ideas also.  If it not worked, don’t worry try others idea. Here they are, in no particular order:

Think positive. One of the things I learned when I started my consultancy firm  about nine years ago, what how to replace negative thoughts (see next item) with positive ones. How I can actually change my thoughts, and by doing so make great things happened. With this tiny little skill, I was able to get maximum numbers assignment..

Kill negative thoughts. Goes hand-in-hand with the above item, but it’s so important that I made it a separate item. You have to learn to be aware of your self-talk, the thoughts you have about yourself and what you’re doing. When I was working or writing a HR policy, sometimes my mind would start to say, “This is too hard. I want to stop and go and meet some friends or a beer..” Well, I soon learned to recognize this negative self-talk, and soon I learned a trick that changed everything in my life: I would imagine that a negative thought was a termite, and I would vigilantly be on the lookout for these termites. When I caught one, I would stomp on it (mentally of course) and squash it. Kill it dead. Then replace it with a positive one. (“C’mon, I can do this! Half the work is done just another an hour work this assignment will over!”)

All are born knowing their self-worth; as life moves on, the comments, expectations, and attitudes of other people can wear down this natural sense of self-worth. Self-worth is what enables you to believe that everyone are capable of doing our best with their talents, of contributing well for business or work or to society, and that we deserve to lead a fulfilling life. Building it up again is therefore natural, essential, and healthy.

In the next couple of blogs let me explain what are other points to look into know you self-worth. Your self-worth is your insurance to your future.  Look forward to the next blog. 

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